Writing for Wedding Invitations

Invitations wording can be dull and boring! It can be the same old words that pops up in every body wedding invitations. Wedding Invitation wording is not supposed to be boring or predictable, but I think it has become that way because we did not know about other versions depending on the situation. I wanted to do a little research of my own to see if there were other variations of the predictable wedding invitation wording. 
 
I was in Brisbane and went to a second hand bookshop with various secondhand book stacked to the roof where to my delight,  I discovered this little book called 'Wedding Etiquette' by Margot Lawrence.
 
Who was Margot Lawrence? She died in 2003 at 88, and was a freelance journalist whose career was a religious spiritual writer and the secretary of the Prayer Book Society. She was a businessman's daughter, and educated at a Wallasey Convent. As I read through  Margot's  book I did not realise how there was quite a variety of invitation wording to suit every blended family or family variation.  Let start with how invitations are not usually sent to the parents of the bridegroom or his unmarried brothers~ What the?? I am pretty sure they still want to come and would like to receive their personal invitation, not just a friendly informal letter with a written confirmation of the date and time. Make it easy for yourself and just send them an invite.
 
Then Margot speaks about inviting the domestic employees of the bride and groom’s families.I had to look at how old this book was which was first published in 1963 and then reprinted in 1971 wth corrections and then reprinted in1972 and 1974 in London. I didn’t think that domestic employees were still being used in 1963.
 
A checklist of all the attendees with tick boxes for invitations sent, and tick boxes for their return of reply card responses including an area of what gift you received from them. This is a really good idea to have for sending out thank you notes. 
Let’s get onto most common used wording for your wedding invitations.
 
Mr and Mrs Reginald Jones
Request the pleasure of
The company 
(Names written by hand)
At the marriage of their daughter Kathleen
With 
Mr George Smith
At 
St John’s Church, Leden Bush
On Tuesday, 20th February at 2.30pm
And afterwards at the Manor House Hotel, 18 Poll Hill Leyden Bush.
 
Apparently where the bridegroom is titled or is a doctor, clergyman or an officer in the services, his title is given on the wedding invitations. Whaaattt!?! Okay I am sure there was some marriage equality back then and I am not sure these days if people want to enforce their title on the invitations. I will check up on this in 2018 and see get back to you.
Then Margot goes on to talk about any of the unmarried sons who are living at home are each sent a separate invitation. They should only be included on the parent’s invitations if they are young enough to still be at school.
 
What male teenager is jumping up and down when he receives his own personal invite to his sister’s wedding. Sure he might be excited about the event itself but I would be surprised if he chucked a tantrum about not getting her invitation in the mail. She goes on that the expression ‘and family’ should not be used in formal invitations.Really Margot!! I think that in 2018, we are a bit more inclusive of families and women who deserve to be acknowledged as an individuals.
 
Lets talk about if you want to only invite guests to the reception. This might be because you are having it at a registry office or small church that can’t fit a lot of people in it. This is the wording you could use for a reception only invitation.
 
Mr and Mrs Reginal Jones
Request the pleasure of
The company of
(Names(
At the receptionist to follow the marriage of their daughter
Kathleen 
With 
Mr. George Smith
At the Manor House Hotel, Leyden
On Tuesday 20th February at 3.00pm
18 Poll Hill
Leyden Bush
RSVP
If you only want to invite people to the ceremony only and party on your own together, your invitation might have this style of wording.Margot states that you probably  would be in family mourning if there was to be no reception. For me personally, usually if you have prepaid for the reception or the ceremony you don’t get your money back if its really close to the wedding date. Then again you probably would have already had your invitations printed and sent out before the death of a family member. I personally would think you would have to either ring people or send out a personal note explaining the situation. 
 
Have you ever been to a double wedding? I have never really heard of a double wedding so if you have been, then I would love to hear about it? Send me a email and give me the juicy details of how it worked. Margot points out that random family members who are not sisters would probably want to share the limelight and save on wedding invitations by getting a combined invitation.
Who in their right mind would want to share their wedding day with their friend and possibly have their friend still their limelight. Certainly not me!
 
I want everyone looking at me and not at my best friend who is likely to be more prettier than me. 
 
But I want to share with you how this invitation would be worded if for some reason you would like to share the lime light with your best friend.
 
Mr and Mrs Reginald Jones
Request the pleasure of
The company of
{name}
At the marriage of their daughter
Kathleen
With 
Mr George Smith
And of
Mrs Jone’s niece
Norma Wood
With 
Mr Stephen McLean
At
St. John’s Church, Leyden Bush
On Tuesday, 20th February at 2.30pm
And afterwards at the Manor House Hotel, Leyden.
18 Poll Hill
Leyden Bush
RSVP.

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